Monday, October 28, 2013

Adversaries into Allies

Adversaries into Allies, Win People Over Without Manipulation or Coercion
By Bob Burg

Date Review Posted:  October 25, 2013
Authors:  Bob Burg
Release Date:  October 2013
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  *****  (A case could be made that I would only review the best of the best because if while reading a book it does not hold my interest, I would not finish it and therefore would not review it.)

Format:  Instructional, topic, discussion, examples, tools to fix

Reason For Reading THIS book:  I read Bob Burg's book Endless Referrals again and again.  I was in real estate sales at the time and quickly recognized the value of Endless Referrals to the point I created a course based on the book for my agents.  That was followed by his book, Winning Without Intimidation and again I created a course based on the book; both were that good.  I have read everything Bob Burg has written including his wonderful book he co-authored called Gossip.  Each book raised the bar on content and excellence and this book was no exception.  The book may be mistaken for a book about sales and that would be a mistake.  It is about building quality relationships with everyone in your life, not just customers.

Number Of Times I Have Read This Book:  I have read it only one time but already know for certain that a second and maybe a third time is in the future. 

Brief Summary of Content:   Steven M. R. Covey, author of The Speed of Trust (another great book by the way) wrote this recommendation for Adversaries into Allies.  I could not improve on this wonderful recommendation:

"Bob Burg has delivered again!  In Adversaries into Allies, you'll learn how to influence and persuade others toward outcomes that create genuinely good feelings and results for everyone involved.  The principles of how exactly to do that, consistently and predictably, are powerfully presented in this tremendous book.  And you're about to learn them form a master."

And from the book:  I believe that you can often discover the importance and applicability of a book by the Table of Contents.  There are 76 Chapters in the book, 250 pages of absolutely great tools to use to build and develop your relationships.  The Table of Contents follows:

SECTION ONE:  The Five Principles of Ultimate Influence.  Understanding the Basics of All Human Action and Interaction.

Chapter 1, The Five Principles
Chapter 2, It's (Much) More Than Just About Being Nice
Chapter 3, Persuasion Versus Manipulation

SECTION TWO:  Control Your Own Emotions. This Comes Before Everything Else in the Process Every Time

Chapter 4, Responding Versus Reacting (One of my personal favorites)
Chapter 5, Effectively Handle Verbal Attacks
Chapter 6, Make Calm Your Default Setting (Another personal favorite)
Chapter 7, Overcome Anger
Chapter 8, The Persuasive Power of Positive Detachment
Chapter 9, Think Before You Speak (Another personal favorite)
Chapter 10, Agree to Disagree
Chapter 11, Consider the Source (To this one I say Amen!)

SECTION THREE:  Understand the Clash of Belief Systems.   Avoiding Those Deadly Misunderstandings

Chapter 12, Belief Systems-the Problem and the Solution
Chapter 13, "How Would You Define...?"
Chapter 14, Accept the Responsibility for Communication
Chapter 15, The Importance of Conscious Awareness
Chapter 16, Personal or Not?  How Do You Know?
Chapter 17, Love Languages from Liberty the Cat
Chapter 18, First, Now the Issue, Then, Choose the Words
Chapter 19, The Answer?  Based on What Information?
Chapter 20, Perceptual Realities Equal Different Conclusions
Chapter 21, Change Your Non-Serving Beliefs to Be More Productive

SECTION FOUR:  Acknowledge Their Ego.  Working Effectively Within the Ultimate Human Motivator

Chapter 22, Don't Shame or Embarrass
Chapter 22, Be a Judge, Not a Lawyer
Chapter 24, The Principle of Agreement
Chapter 25, Ego Repair
Chapter 26, The Power of Handwritten Notes (This should be required reading for the youth!)
Chapter 27, Edification-a Powerful Key to Influence
Chapter 28, Do You Look for disagreement?
Chapter 29, Compliment the Uncomplimented
Chapter 30, Caught in the Act!.....of Doing Something Right
Chapter 31, "I Appreciate Ya"

SECTION FIVE:  Set the Proper Frame.  Do This Correctly and You Are 80 Percent of the Way to the Win/Win Outcome You Desire

Chapter 32, Positive Expectation Works, but Not Why You Think It Does
Chapter 33, Framing Your Influence in Your First Conversation
Chapter 34, Sometimes, It's Good to Let 'Em See You Sweat
Chapter 35, The Ransburger Pivot
Chapter 36, The Value of the Correct Phrase
Chapter 37, "What Can I Do to Help?"
Chapter 38, Win by Making the Others' Case First
Chapter 39, Help Them to Live in the Solution
Chapter 40, Avoid Negative Framing
Chapter 41, Don't Fall Victim to the Either/Or
Chapter 42, Persuasion Secrets of a Ten-Year-Old
Chapter 43, Change Your Frame, Change Your Life

SECTION SIX:  Communicate with Tact and Empathy.  The Big Difference That Makes the Big Difference

Chapter 44, Tact-the Language of Strength
Chapter 45, The Beauty of Empathy
Chapter 46, Lead-in Phrases Pave the Way
Chapter 47, Deflection via the Parry
Chapter 48, Kind Words Regarding Your Competitors
Chapter 49, Tact Does Not Equal Compromise
Chapter 50, Give Them a Back Door
Chapter 51, How to Say No Graciously and Effectively
Chapter 52, Don't Tread on Me
Chapter 53, Turning Down an Offer, While Leaving Room for Another (great stuff)
Chapter 54, Dealing with an Interrupter
Chapter 55, The Ben Franklin Method for Winning People Over
Chapter 56, Dr. Franklin and Another Great Lesson in Communication
Chapter 57, Timing Rules!
Chapter 58, Make People Comfortable with You
Chapter 59, Collecting Money Owed You in a Winning Way (who could not benefit from this?)
Chapter 60, The Pleasure of "My Pleasure"
Chapter 61, Deliver the Right Message for Your Audience
Chapter 62, Seeking Forgiveness
Chapter 63, "Acknowledge Me!"
Chapter 64, Just Listen  (another Amen on this one!)
Chapter 65, Remember to Scratch the Hogs  (so simple)
Chapter 66, The Pre-Apology Approach
Chapter 67, Influencing in Style:  A Reader Success Story

SECTION SEVEN:  The Character of Ultimate Influencers.  Even More Important Than What You Say and What You do Is Who You Are

Chapter 68, Stand Firm on Principle
Chapter 69, The Master of "Goodspeak"...and Influence
Chapter 70, Focus on Your Strengths but Don't Ignore Your Weaknesses  (a different way of thinking)
Chapter 71, Ignore Problems at Your Peril
Chapter 72, Why Top Influncers Build Strong Teams
Chapter 73, Consistence-a Prime Ingredient of Trust
Chapter 74, Growing from Your Mistakes
Chapter 75, Self-Correction-When Your Replay Shows You Fumbled
Chapter 76, Want to Be an Ultimate Influencer?  Say Little and Do Much

Who Should Read the Book?    Everyone, especially people in sales and today's youth as this type of training is not currently being provided in our school systems. 

Final Test:  Would I read the book again?  ABSOLUTELY!  Would I give it as a gift?  ABSOLUTELY!

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Killing Floor, Lee Child

Killing Floor, The First Jack Reacher Novel

Date Review Posted:  September 29, 2013
Authors:  Lee Child
Release Date:  March 1997
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Rating:  *****  (A case could be made that I would only review the best of the best because if while reading a book it does not hold my interest, I would not finish it and therefore would not review it.)

Format:  Fictional Novel; intense drama

Reason For Reading THIS book:  Recommended by a long-time good friend Dave Jenks.  I am forever thankful for the recommendation.

Number Of Times I Have Read This Book:  One

Brief Summary of Content:  

This is the first of a series of novels featuring the main character, Jack Reacher.  As you read the novel you quickly grasp that Reacher is a man of great inner resource.  A former Army Officer, a former Military Police Officer, and someone gifted with insight in regards to the thinking of the criminal mind.  He always seems to be one step ahead of the villains in the book and then calls on his ability to anticipate their next move and create an effective counter move; oftentimes stretching the limits of the law.
Here is how the book affected me.  It is over 500 pages and I spent a Saturday when LSU was playing Georgia reading the entire book.  It is that good, that compelling and that riveting.  I tried to put it down several times to do other things only to go back to the book within minutes.

It would be unfair to anyone who wants to read the book to discuss the plot.  Suffice it to say it WILL keep you wanting more and that makes it hard to stop.  It has several stories that run at a parallel to the main story and they all intertwine until the very end of the book.

If you like stories like James Bond, and Jesse Stone, you'll love this book!

Final Test:  Would I read the book again?  Probably not.  Why?  I now know what is going on; that makes reading it again not something I would do.  But that does not diminish the high regard I have for the author and the book.  More importantly, there are more Jack Reacher novels I desire to read.  Would I give it as a gift?  I absolutely.

Next Review:  Not sure at this time.

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

The Unstoppable Power Within

The Unstoppable Power Within, Volume One, Imagine the Possibilities
By Kieran A. Revell, “The Success Wizzard”

Date Review Posted:  September 20, 2013
Authors:  Kieran A. Revell
Release Date:  July, 2013
  ***** (A case could be made that I would only review the best of the best because if while reading a book it does not hold my interest, I would not finish it and therefore would not review it.)

Format:  Consists of 18 Chapters, each filled with great quotes, and quotes from the author.  Each chapter is one segment of a planned journey to success.  At the end of each chapter there is summary of Lessons Learned that were discussed in each chapter.

Reason For Reading THIS book:  I became a Facebook friend of the author, Kieran Revell and very much enjoyed his posts.  We became email friends so when his book hit the market there was no decision in regards to reading it, I simply had to.  It was a decision that I will long treasure.

Number Of Times I Have Read This Book:  One time.   Intend to purchase a supply of the books to give as gifts.  It is that good!

Brief Summary of Content:   I absolutely love this book.  I found that while reading it, the process took much longer than most books I have read.  I would read just part of a chapter and my mind would begin to wonder and think about what I just read.  The book causes you to think and that is always a very good thing – THINKING!  It WILL cause you to think not only about where you are right at this moment but also where you want to be in the future and they it helps you create a plan to get you to where you want to be.  The best way to describe what is in the book would be to simply list the Chapter Titles; which are:

  • Dare to Dream
  • The Essence of Self-Belief
  • Learning Life’s Lessons
  • Commit to Change
  • Removing the (Glass) Ceiling on Success
  • Being the Best You Can
  • The Awesome Power of Transformational Change
  • Taking Care of Your Health and Fitness
  • Develop a Clear and Supported Plan of Action
  • Sales and Marketing Knowledge
  • Effective Communication
  • The Gentle Art of Persuasion
  • Additional Streams of Income
  • The Value of Effective Time Management
  • The Necessity for Saving Money
  • Effective Steps to Problem-Solving
  • The Challenge of Procrastination
  • Empowering Our Children

Who Should Read the Book?    Everyone!

Final Test:  Would I read the book again?  ABSOLUTELY AND I AM!  Would I give it as a gift?  ABSOLUTELY and I am!